Boundaries and Friendship
Ms. Ashley and the students discussed what is meant by “our boundaries” and what happens when people “cross the line” or “go over the limit”.
They worked on the case-studies where they had to read different situations and then decide if someone in the situation has crossed a boundary.
Here’s some examples:
Josh’s coach hugs him for a really long time: The students thought this was not appropriate. The hug is fine, but “for a long time” is crossing a boundary.
Jose’s teacher cries on his shoulder and tells him about her problems: The students thought that the teacher was a bit immature and that it would be really “weird”.
Kendra and Alisa are best friends. Kendra tells Alisa about her parents’ divorce: The students had different opinions about this one, some felt that a boundary had been crossed and some didn’t. Ms. Ashley said that sometimes it depends on people’s personalities.
Tiffany tells Kim a secret that Maria told her: Samantha described that as a “violation”!
The conversation then moved on to touching. The students shared examples of “good touching” such as: a hug, a high-five, holding hands, leaning on someone nicely, kissing someone in your family, a gentle pat on the back, a touch on the arm. The students then shared examples of “bad touching” such as: a punch, a push, a kick, scratching, touching someone’s private parts.